Confessions of a Former People Pleaser

How I Stopped Letting Everyone Take Advantage Of Me and Took My Power Back

Being "The Chauffeur" wasn't just about driving people around—it was about how I lived my life. For years, I lived in a constant state of self-abandonment, seeking approval and validation from everyone else. I let others dictate my journey while telling myself I was in control because I was the one holding the wheel. But the truth? I was merely a passenger in my own life, steering toward destinations chosen by others.

The transformation to Mike Tyson—a confident, unapologetic version of myself—wasn’t instantaneous. It was messy, grueling, and required dismantling years of ingrained habits, beliefs, and fears. It’s a war I continue to fight, but the battle lines are more precise now.

The roots of The Chauffeur run deep, starting in childhood. Growing up, my needs were secondary, a minor footnote in a narrative centered on survival. I learned early that minimizing myself was the best way to avoid conflict or punishment—to shrink, to disappear. I became the agreeable, compliant, ever-helpf…