Here's Why I Fight Over Email

It's Unconventional, But I Stand By It

I don’t choose this unconventional approach because I’m afraid of conflict.

Or because I want to avoid tough conversations…

But because I’ve seen what in-person fights do.

• They can turn reasonable people into monsters.

• They escalate FAST.

• And when one person fights for power instead of understanding? There’s no way to win.

That’s why I fight over email.

I’ve noted since my divorce that other divorcees come with some delightful insights.

They’ve had the kind of experience that sobers a human being.

That makes them think twice about their next partner.

And, at a bare minimum, divorcees know their non-negotiables.

They are clear on what they do not want.

The level of emotional intelligence I’ve seen with divorcees is orders of magnitude more than someone who hasn’t been married yet.

We walk into relationships with all sorts of cockamamie ideas about what real love is supposed to look like.

Most people entering their first marriage are utterly naive and brainwashed.

They have a very idealistic view of t…