How to Become a Fantastic Listener
Why Listening Is the Most Underrated Skill in the World (and How to Master It)
I’ve seen this repeatedly—people breaking down because I listened.
That’s the power of good listening.
“How are you?” I asked.
“Fine, thanks.” She said.
But I didn’t accept her superficial answer.
I said, “Are you sure? Because the last time we spoke, I felt you might be going through something.”
She Starts Crying
Her father had stage 4 cancer.
Being attentive like that can allow you to step deeply into someone’s heart.
I was on a date.
It was going alright, but I could tell that something was off.
I could see it in her eyes.
I might crack a joke, and she would laugh, but there was a sadness behind the smile and laughter.
“Are you sad?” I ask.
“No…” She said.
I study her eyes for a few moments.
“No,” I said. “You are sad.”
She starts to cry.
It was a profound and powerful moment.
That simple exchange transformed her from being a stranger to a dear friend.
When nobody else picks up on the signals they’re putting out, but you do…
You get a visceral response.
There’s a deep bonding that happens.
She neve…
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