I have learned that sometimes I need to just leave the situation all together. No matter how close I am to that person. If I say no and they are not listening then I walk away. Give it space.
Such an important article we need to explore when we struggle with being nice and not wanting to hurt people. But no is no. I had to learn it when my kids were little- they were running circles around me because I didn’t have a firm no in me. Then I got it. They need to know that no means no. Not maybe. It made them feel safer. I think it’s trauma induced from nuns and religious programming when we don’t honor our feelings.
I have learned that sometimes I need to just leave the situation all together. No matter how close I am to that person. If I say no and they are not listening then I walk away. Give it space.
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Definitely something I have struggled with most of my life and am only just now learning how to do better with! Thanks for sharing your story.
Such an important article we need to explore when we struggle with being nice and not wanting to hurt people. But no is no. I had to learn it when my kids were little- they were running circles around me because I didn’t have a firm no in me. Then I got it. They need to know that no means no. Not maybe. It made them feel safer. I think it’s trauma induced from nuns and religious programming when we don’t honor our feelings.