Powerful piece on establishing non-negotiables. The line about "licking your finger to test the wind" captures why most people struggle with boundaires perfectly. Setting firm standards isn't about being rigid, it's about knowing what erodes your peace versus what protects it. I've found the hardest part isn't deciding what I won't tolerate, but actually enforcing those boundries when someone I care about crosses them.
Yeah, I hear you. Enforcing gets easier with practice. I did the wrong thing so many times it's in my bones. I know what the wrong thing gets me. Nothing good. Never works. I've screwed up too many times to doubt this. And once you taste freedom, your distaste for bullshit grows.
Powerful piece on establishing non-negotiables. The line about "licking your finger to test the wind" captures why most people struggle with boundaires perfectly. Setting firm standards isn't about being rigid, it's about knowing what erodes your peace versus what protects it. I've found the hardest part isn't deciding what I won't tolerate, but actually enforcing those boundries when someone I care about crosses them.
Yeah, I hear you. Enforcing gets easier with practice. I did the wrong thing so many times it's in my bones. I know what the wrong thing gets me. Nothing good. Never works. I've screwed up too many times to doubt this. And once you taste freedom, your distaste for bullshit grows.