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Not Everyone Deserves You

How to Walk Away—Even If You’re Sleeping Beside Them Every Night.

Not everyone deserves you.

This includes blood relatives.

People you’ve known your whole life.

Even some of our children.

In fact… most people don’t.

This is a great starting point when thinking about yourself.

If my writing resonates with you, I’d bet good money that you’re still holding on to people who deserve to go.

This sounds simple.

But if you’ve spent your whole life believing you’re unworthy…

It’s not easy.

In fact…

Thinking like this feels impossible.

Because here’s the truth:

If you see yourself as unworthy…
Then by default, you don’t deserve good things.

In other words, you deserve whatever treatment you get.

You expect disrespect.
You tolerate it.
It’s your norm.

So, running around saying, “Not everyone deserves me”?

It’s the opposite of what you have been saying to yourself your whole life.

It doesn’t feel natural.

Or maybe you say you agree…

But you don’t really mean it.

It’s a lie you’re telling yourself to hide the grim reality.

Perhaps you think that being selective about the company you keep sounds arrogant.

But what if it’s not?

What if that’s just the truth?

Valuable Things Are Handled with Care

People don’t leave expensive jewelry lying around.
They don’t let strangers walk into their house.
They don’t loan their car to just anyone.

Because valuable things are rare.

And valuable things are treated with exclusivity.

So why do we act like our time, our energy, and our presence are worthless?

Because we were conditioned to.

My therapist once told me:
"You have to make yourself your #1 priority."

He’s told me this thousands of times.

Why?

Because I was so deeply brainwashed against the idea

It took thousands of repetitions for my brain to even begin accepting it.

My entire operating system was running on the belief:
“I am unworthy.”

That’s why I tolerated mistreatment.

That’s why, when people disrespected me, I didn’t fight back—I normalized it.

I didn’t see a problem.
I didn’t even know there was a problem.

I had run the same pattern so many times that I didn’t even notice.

Someone treats me badly → I react in my usual way → Cycle repeats.

This was my routine.
My programming.

And the thing about core beliefs is…

They don’t just influence your life.
They control it.

A core belief dictates everything.

It paints the world for you—in fear, rage, or ecstasy.
It dictates how you respond to almost every situation.
It is the operating system running your life.

And until you bring it into awareness, you have no free will.

You are just a predictable script, acting out the same story over and over.

And here’s the kicker:

99% of people will never face their core beliefs.

Because doing that?

It means tearing down the entire foundation of how you’ve been living.

Want to Know Who You Are? Watch the Story You Keep Telling Yourself.

You’re not unpredictable.
You’re not some infinite mystery.

You are one thing:

👉 The story you believe.

The story you keep repeating to yourself, over and over.

Until you question that story…
Until you confront it…
Until you rewrite it…

Nothing will change.

So watch it play out.
Notice the way you react in the same situations.
See the patterns in your relationships, your friendships, your choices.

Then—write it down.

Journal about it.
Talk to your therapist.
Watch your mind in deep meditation.

And most importantly

Take real-world action with all of this in mind.

For years, I kept people I didn’t even like in my life.

I felt obligated to stay around them.
Like I had no choice.

They drained me.
They demanded more than they gave.
They held me to a standard they would never hold themselves to.

And I tolerated it.

I knew I was being mistreated, sure.

But I didn’t fully understand that I didn’t deserve it.

And without that clarity, I stayed stuck.

The most powerful super glue in the world?

👉 Not knowing you deserve better.

It keeps people trapped for a lifetime.

But here’s what I know now:

👉 Just because people take you for granted doesn’t mean you have to tolerate it.
👉 Just because they expect access to you doesn’t mean they deserve it.
👉 Just because you’re used to mistreatment doesn’t mean it’s normal.

You Don’t Have to Walk Away Overnight… But You Do Need Clarity.

If you can’t leave the situation yet?

Fine.

But at least be honest about what you’re giving up by staying.

At least admit to yourself that you deserve better.

At least begin the process of unlearning the belief that keeps you trapped.

Because the moment you know you can walk away…

It’s only a matter of time before you actually do.

Raise your standards.
Set your price.
Know your worth.

Because the truth is:

Not everyone deserves you.

And the moment you accept that, you stop waiting for permission to walk away.

When I was younger, I didn’t know I could walk away from a situation I didn’t like.

I felt responsible for fixing problems that weren’t mine to fix.

I didn’t know that my presence was a privilege, not an obligation.

People had been mistreating me for so long that I didn’t know what real respect even looked like.

I know now.

And I will never forget it.

If this hit you hard, it’s because you already know the truth. You just haven’t acted on it yet.

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Until next time,

Anton

Dancer, Writer, Buddhist.

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