I like to remind people that we attract all kinds of people, it’s the people we let through the door that will have an effect on us. If you are not a toxic person, you aren’t “attracting” toxic people, you are probably attracting ALL people. However, if you are people pleasing, that means you are just letting the wrong ones in the door. We don’t have to carry that burden of feeling like we are still “causing” our continued encounters with hurtful people because we have those scars (by saying it is something about us that is attracting these people). Hurtful people are everywhere and will walk through ANY open door. Healing means becoming a good doorman (or gatekeeper). 🩷
I like to remind people that we attract all kinds of people, it’s the people we let through the door that will have an effect on us. If you are not a toxic person, you aren’t “attracting” toxic people, you are probably attracting ALL people. However, if you are people pleasing, that means you are just letting the wrong ones in the door. We don’t have to carry that burden of feeling like we are still “causing” our continued encounters with hurtful people because we have those scars (by saying it is something about us that is attracting these people). Hurtful people are everywhere and will walk through ANY open door. Healing means becoming a good doorman (or gatekeeper). 🩷