The Ripple Effect of Our Communication - Our Words Matter More Than We Think by Melissa Lopez

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Dear Permission to be Powerful Reader,

Our words hold immense power, a truth often overshadowed by the childhood rhyme…

“Sticks and stones may break my bones, but words may never hurt me."

While the sentiment behind this phrase is understandable, it rarely reflects reality.

Physical wounds from sticks and stones may heal, but the impact of words, the constant hum of daily conversation, can leave lasting scars.

I often have the chance to work with young adults, typically just a year or two out of high school, many of whom struggled to graduate, even needing extra time.

They've been bombarded with messages of inadequacy such as: "You can't do this," "Stick with something easy," and the pressure to achieve certain milestones by a specific age. They arrive at my office discouraged, unsure of their potential.

I often ask them, "What do you think people see when they look at you?” “What's the slogan attached to your name?" Their responses are usually negative: "super senior," "quitter," "underachiever." They internalize and repeat the criticisms they've heard.

My lessons to my clients then become motivating them to change their inner dialogue. One of the most powerful things anyone can do is change their self-talk. Words shape our path, goals, and ultimately, our success.

Shifting from negative to positive language can transform our thinking.

The only opinion of ourselves that truly matters is our own. Even if you don't fully believe it yet, speak positively. Find one thing you're proud of and focus on that.

This isn't about unrealistic positivity, but about consciously redirecting your thoughts. Our words create our world. There's a direct link between the life we live and the words we speak.

Please remember: Words have a profound impact, often more lasting than physical harm. Many young people struggle with negative self-perceptions due to past criticisms and pressures and carry that into their adult lives.

By consciously shifting our language, both internally and externally, towards positivity, we can reshape our thinking, create a better world, and foster healthier interactions even with those who we view as hostile.

— Melissa