✍️ Editor’s Note:
Zalman is my therapist—and my secret weapon.
When I was unraveling, he didn’t just offer support. He helped me see the patterns running my life and gave me language sharp enough to cut through them.
His insights show up everywhere in Permission to Be Powerful—because they changed me. Now I want them to reach you.
This is your introduction to Zalman, LCSW. You’ll be hearing more from him.
—Anton
Dear Permission to be Powerful Reader,
Life Patterns are the deeply ingrained emotional themes that have followed you since childhood. They’re not flaws. Not defects. Not something you chose. You didn’t ask for them. You adapted to survive.
You picked up these patterns as a kid—absorbing the dynamics, messages, and emotional environment of your home. You made sense of the world in the only way you could. And that sense-making got locked in as your default setting.
Since then, those same patterns have repeated themselves—again and again. In relationships. In work. In your inner dialogue. In your triggers. Even now, as an adult, they quietly push you to recreate the same emotional atmosphere you grew up in—especially the painful parts.
Life Patterns Are Self-Destructive
Life Patterns don’t just affect how you feel. They affect what you choose.
They draw you toward the same kind of hurt.
They filter how you see yourself and others.
They infect your self-esteem, your confidence, your moods, your decisions.
You may find yourself pulled toward toxic dynamics, critical people, situations where you feel small or invisible or not enough—because that feels like home to the Pattern part of you.
Not because you want it.
Because it’s familiar.
Life Patterns Are Loyal and Resistant
Here’s the paradox: the Pattern once protected you.
It saved you.
It kept you emotionally afloat in a stormy home or unstable school or shaming environment.
But what helped you survive childhood now sabotages your adulthood.
The problem is, the Pattern doesn’t know the war is over.
It still sees you as that little kid who needed protection.
That’s why it fights change.
That’s why personal growth feels so hard, so slippery.
And why self-help books, affirmations, and advice often don’t stick.
You’re not failing. You’re fighting a very old survival mechanism that just won’t let go without deeper, targeted work.
My Pattern Is the Problem—Not Me
Let’s say this out loud:
I’m not broken. My Pattern is the problem.
It’s not your nature that’s anxious, fearful, sad, or avoidant.
That’s the Pattern’s lens.
And when you wear its glasses, everything looks bleak—especially yourself.
But underneath?
There’s the real you. The Authentic You. And that part?
Is open.
Is kind.
Is ready.
Is hopeful.
Is lovable.
Is worthy.
Is so damn eager to live freely.
That part has ideas. Words. Desires. Contributions to make.
That part knows there’s more to life than what the Pattern allows.
You Deserve a Path That Works
When you’re ready to grow…
When you’re serious about change…
You deserve a path that acknowledges the Pattern and works through it—not against it.
That’s where real transformation begins.
We don’t need to shame ourselves into healing.
We need a map that includes the terrain we’re actually walking on.
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Let’s stop looping the past.
Let’s give your Inner Child something new to believe.
Let’s build a relationship between the part that feels hurt and the part that can heal.
See you inside,
Zalman, LCSW
